"Important choices were before me. I could choose to focus on the uncertainty each day would bring, thus continuing down a road leading to unhappiness and an unfulfilled life. I could choose to withdraw from life, angry and bitter at God for allowing this to happen to me. Or I could choose to acknowledge my worth in Christ's eyes, which held much greater promise for the potential to experience a lifetime of adventure, step by step, day by day. I could choose to open my eyes to the hope of a new journey, placing my will aside, enticed by the opportunity to know God's will and purpose for this imperfect vessel. With committed resolve, I chose adventure." [Excerpt from my book Worthy In His Eyes: Part Four: PROACTIVE FAITH...Chapter Three: CHOICES] © Kathleen M. Pritchard
LOOKING BACK: Choices offer an upside to every trial in life. But the choices we make affect not only us, but others as well. This is so important to remember and it can be an awesome motivator to seek positive alternatives whenever possible [instead of just giving up or giving in]. Some decisions do not work out and that's okay. "No" as an answer is just that: an answer. It takes time to learn and accept that sometimes but when you do, you are free to move forward.
Some choices require patience to wait out the results and that's a learning process all of it's own as well. But it's worth the wait because it will once again clarify what works and what doesn't. Sometimes time alone determines the outcome and time cannot be rushed.
One of the greatest failures we could experience is in not even trying to find a solution. Any effort to accomplish something, regardless of the inability to know if it is going to be successful, creates growth. Learning from mistakes develops our character and [hopefully] prevents us from going a second round of bad decision-making in that same type of situation. Next time, we will be wiser and our revised efforts just might produce success.
A lot of our choices and decision-making must come from within us. But we need guidance and sound counsel from those who have either walked the journey, or who have helped others walk the journey. We must seek God's guidance first and foremost, asking Him to lead us to the right sources. A tough decision for me was to meet with a Psychologist. I had never needed to seek help from a professional before. However, after picking up that super heavy phone, I began meeting with a wonderful Psychologist who specialized in Brain Injury Counselling. She was invaluable with her wisdom and knowledge of brain injuries. Her extensive background enabled me to identify what my situation was in order to understand how to cope with it. She knew what I was going through.....emotionally and physically.
Yet, I needed more. My relationship with God was deepening, but there were still many hurdles ahead. Some were visible, others were not. Kip and I knew we needed to seek out a professional Christian Counsellor.....someone who could guide us spiritually. We are so thankful for the Counsellor God led us to and I met with him one on one initially. Gradually, those hurdles became much less menacing through the spiritual wisdom and guidance I received. I was advised to focus on what God expected of me....not what I, or others seemed to expect of me. I was challenged to reach deep within my heart for answers to that.....this process took a long time and a lot of soul searching. Eventually Kip began attending sessions with me....it was crucial for both of us to have the same focus and "plan" for this new journey. It was vital for Kip to be able to share his feelings on how he felt about the impact of my newly acquired disability and it was extremely important for me to give him the freedom to. It took a LOT of courage on his part and it was one of the greatest, most unselfish gifts he has ever given me. Being free to openly talk about it, even when it was really tough, truly enriched and blessed our relationship and our marriage.
Each decision made is a healthy choice or an unhealthy choice, but it is completely ours to make. But weigh them carefully, don't make them flippantly. Seek guidance when you come to a huge hurdle, but choose who you seek it from wisely. And always, always consult with the Lord for His direction.
"You made me; you created me. Now give me the sense to follow your commands." Psalm 119: 73 NLT
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